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Ann’s Diary: Life On Pause

Dear Canon Elura Camcorder Maker:

Please take this letter in the spirit in which it is intended, which would be the screaming, teeth gnashing, OMG how could I do that spirit of a mother, wife, filmmaker and cancer fighter who tried to tape her daughter’s 2nd grade solo this week and didn’t realize the camera was in PAUSE mode instead of REC mode.

I’m not saying you’ve done anything wrong:  obviously not, since your camera is of such high quality and durability that it has the distinct honor of being one of two cameras used in making the award winning film “The Breast Cancer Diaries”, in which I unfortunately star.  But I digress–

So your camera is amazing and somehow, with 8 rounds of dose dense chemotherapy running through my system 7 years ago I still managed to press REC when I needed to capture precious moments of life on tape.  But this week, as my equally precious daughter–whose first steps were captured and forever preserved in that film–got up on stage in front of 50? 60? people and sang her little heart out, Mummy here stood with her eye in the lens, trained dutifully on said child, and held what amounts to a broken camera–due to the fact that it wasn’t really recording– on her as she belted out her very first solo.

SO:  if there’s any way you can make a new version of your camera that has a big arm and hand attached to it, that simultaneously whips the holder upside the head when she (or he) hits PAUSE when meaning to hit RECORD, I promise you I will buy one.

Meanwhile, do you have the number of whomever is in charge of the syndrome we cancer fighters experience, called Chemo Brain?  Because since I have that, and I can’t remember sh-t anyway, I want to make sure the memory of that sweet blonde up there throwing her voice through the crowd with joy, excitement and a bit of nervousness–that didn’t show until she got off stage and visibly went WHEW–is not lost in the scattered place I call my brain. Because at this point, that’s the only space the memory of this week’s second grade music recital lives.  And I trust that place about as far as I can throw it.

Thank you.

Posted May 12th, 2011
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Goodbye, Osama

I am among the tens of thousands–millions?–of Americans hearing the news that Osama Bin Laden has been killed in Pakistan by U.S. forces.  I want to say that I hate killing and I detest excitement over any one else’s passing–but as someone who has a close connection to a woman who died on September 11th, 2001 I must say I hope the pain of her death and the death of all 3,000 people killed that day has been eased even a tiny bit.

As a woman facing the possibility of my own death sooner than later, I don’t take talking about death lightly.  Heaven knows we could all go any day and I realize nothing is forever–

but when someone goes too soon for senseless reasons–bombs, blow-ups, disease, car crashes, attacks of any kind and all the rest–there’s always a human reaction to get some justice for it.  God knows if I could find the bloke responsible for breast cancer I’d beat it to a pulp–but that isn’t going to happen in my lifetime.  It could be environment, it could be food, it could be sugar, it could be…what?  What could it be?  I have no idea.  And neither do the one in 4 other people out there whose bodies, for whatever reason, forget to remember how to fight off the cancer cells that grow naturally in everybody’s bodies every day.

So for now, for tonight I celebrate for the ones who lost so much on 9-11, and for the rest of the world whose homes and families, lives and governments have been tortured and ruined at the hands of Osama Bin Laden and his terrorist group, Al-Quaeda.  I pray for peace worldwide, I hope the troops come home to the U.S. from Afghanistan as soon as possible,

And some day, could I even hope in my lifetime?–may we find and conquer the medical terrorist cancer;  in every form, in every body, once and for all, for all of us.

Posted May 1st, 2011 by
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Ann’s Diary: Thank You Seth Godin

The Breast Cancer Diaries and the story of my roller coaster ride with metastatic breast cancer were chosen as part of a unique publishing venture by marketing guru Seth Godin called Tales Of The Revolution.  This downloadable-only book available at Amazon.com for the Kindle highlights real people making a difference and “poking the box”–the term Godin’s Domino Project uses to reference real folks like me living in a purposeful way–hoping to make a difference while we’re here in this world.

I am honored and excited to be grouped with such amazing individuals and I hope you can read just a few of the amazing people highlighted in Tales Of The Revolution.  And if you’re a writer and hope to get published, Godin’s revolutionary ideas around self-publishing deserve your undivided attention. Read about them here.

Thanks Seth Godin and the entire Poke-the-Box team–

So I guess this revolution will not be televised, it will be PUBLISHED, correct?

Charge!

Posted April 20th, 2011 by
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La Vida Aloha

When Ricky Martin swiveled his hips and wrapped himself in the staccato beat of  the hit song “La Vida Loca” years ago I hummed it along with everyone else listening to top 40 radio so much it made my head spin.

I think it’s been a decade at least since that song hit the planet and I have a suggested title for a follow-up for him:  (living) La Vida Aloha.

But to write this song, Ricky–or whomever writes his stuff–has to come to Maui, Hawaii.  Here he has to do what I’ve been doing since my arrival here 3 days ago.  And that is this:

arrive here.

After that, whatever I do–it’s all good.

And I haven’t done it to crazy rhythm of pop rock.  I’ve done it to the calm and humbling view of lava rock from a volcano field that’s been there generations and generations before little Rickito was ever born. I could also climb that old volcano if I wanted to, or watch swans swim in front of me while I sip coffee and eat pineapple that fell from a local tree. I went to Gossen’s for a Mai Tai and sat with dear friends whom I’ve known since I drank from a bottle of milk. Just yesterday I stood on a shore and visited with a sea turtle three feet away who just happened to swim in to say hi.

And I said Aloha to a friend I haven’t seen in 18 years and watched the sun set surrounded by happy people while my old pal blew a fantastic B from a conch shell.

It seems whatever I do here, I love with all my being.  I’ve never been to Hawaii before and this trip, a gift from my sister-cousin to help soothe my cancer soul, has been in the true sense of the word–heavenly. The local people are lovely, they smile all the time to me–so much so that I think they really and truly mean it when they say “aloha”.  That’s Hawaiian for hello and good-bye, and from the vibe I’ve been getting I think they’re also quietly saying “enjoy” to me–as in enjoy today.  Be calm, have peace. Enjoy my life.

So if you hear me humming a tune in the coming months that sounds very much like a 90′s hip-swiveling head-banging hit by a handsome latino hell bent on casual sex with a nymphomaniac, listen cafefully.  Because while the beat may mimic Ricky’s monster smash, the words I’m singing and the meaning behind them have a whole different , healthy and happy vibe…

living la vida aloha.

Posted April 1st, 2011 by
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Ann’s Diary: Because I Can

When I was little I wore a tiger paw bikini that I loved.

In the late 60′s terry cloth suits for kids were the rage and mine, white with a paw shape striped like a jungle cat’s fur was my ultimate favorite swim wear. In photos of me and my 5 brother and sisters and 11 cousins clustered around our 4 aunts and uncles, 3 sets of parents and our (maternal) grandparents sitting for cocktails on a Maine beach, the suit features prominently in slides my mother either took or had a beach walker take with her leather-bound Nikkormat camera. Mom, in her paisley cover up and grecian style sandals, wore that thing like jewelry.  She loved taking family pictures. And I’m just like her.

But taking a photo of myself in a bikini hasn’t happened since those days clustered around my grandpa back at Goose Rocks Beach.  I was either too modest or too pregnant to even think of putting on a two piece. Then I got breast cancer and along with it, a double mastectomy.  Now I have no breasts–and I don’t mean small ones, or fake ones, I mean ‘no’ ones;  nada, zilch, zero.  I made the difficult decision to do without a fake pair and just live as I am.

Many times my lack of breasts isn’t even noticeable, as I try to stay slim, eat well and exercise.  And anything that emphasizes nipples and curves kind of highlights the situation and so has been a no-no on my shopping list.  So when a friend recently suggested I bring a bikini to my beach getaway with my cousin, I thought she’d lost her mind.  The upper part of a bikini is basically a piece of cloth designed to thinly veil the sexuality beneath it. Assuming you have sexuality beneath it.

Which brings me back to me. I’ve lived as a breast less woman in America for 7 years now and I’ve graduated slowly from baggy shirts to high collars to solid print scoops to sleeveless v-necks.  Now fighting metastatic breast cancer, I am trying things I’ve never had the guts for in the past because I’m still here and to put it simply, because I can.

I suppose we all decide we simply can’t do things–we’re either not smart enough, not tall enough, not brave enough, not rich enough.  And maybe that’s in part true but in reality, we put a lot more restrictions on our movements than anybody else ever could.  Once you tell your mind it’s out of the question, then even picking up a pencil is now truly out of your reach.

Blah blah blah–what’s my point? My point is that today, 40 years from the last time I did this, I put a bikini on. I borrowed it from that friend who told me I could do it.  She even said I should do it. I’ve been working out and doing my anti-cancer diet and the good news about eating nuts and twigs for a living is that the body doesn’t hold onto much fat.  And she’s right, I’m looking okay these days.

I took the suit, packed it in my bag, and pulled it out and looked at it.   But until I told myself I could do it, I still couldn’t.

So today, I told myself I could. (see below)

And I hope whatever it is that you’ve been thinking you can’t do, some one of these days you can tell yourself that you can, too.

Posted March 30th, 2011
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