Just say no.
There are times when whatever it is, it isn’t what you need right then Like when well meaning people want to come over and help when really all you want is just to be alone or be with someone else. Just say “no”. It’s awkward at first but you need to take care of you now–and that means being honest with yourself and with those who love you.
| Posted August 8th, 2010 by |  |
Do ask, do tell.
Ask for help if you need it, ask how to help if you can give it. I had a friend who wanted to do my laundry—and I didn’t like the idea of my soiled duds laid out in front of her. 4 weeks of chemo later, I was so tired I was happy to let her do my dirty work.
| Posted August 4th, 2010 by | |
All cancers are not made equal.
Some cancers are much easier to beat than others. Figure out what you’re up against and then beat it to the ground with education, medicine and hope. And remember what Maya Angelou says: ”I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.”
| Posted July 30th, 2010 by | |
Just Show Up.
If you have cancer, you can beat it. If you are the friend, you can help. You don’t have to perform, get it right, figure it out or know it all. Just show up for the fight.
| Posted July 8th, 2010 by | |
Okay, Stop Panicking. Now that you’ve freaked out, reel it in enough to focus. All cancer diagnoses are different, so you have to find out what you’re up against and beat it to the ground. Deal with your diagnosis day by day with courage and strength and hope. Always hope.
| Posted May 30th, 2010 by | |
